Becoming The Person You Were Created To Be
Somebody once told me their definition of hell. On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become. That makes me sit up and think. Does it you? As I have pondered that, I have realized that a big part of fulfilling your potential is not just adding things to our lives; it is also giving up and letting go of the things that are not helping us become the person we want to be. Most people are not living the life they actually want to live, but you can if you let go of some unhelpful things you are currently holding on to, and determinedly go after others. Let’s consider what those things are.First, what needs to go in your life?
Unhealthy lifestyle. You have one body and one life. This is your basic resource. Take care of it.
Short-term, small mindset. Long-terms goals only get you where you want to go if they are bolstered by small daily habits. Think big. Make sizeable goals and set a long-term strategy to get there.
Excuses. People who live the life they dream of own responsibility for where they are. Excuses put a lid on personal and professional growth.
Fixed mindset. Quit thinking “it is what it is.” You can have a growth mindset and develop new skills. Who you are today is not who you have to be tomorrow. As Einstein said, “Genius is 1% talent and 99% hard work.”
Dreams of overnight success. That’s a myth. The real story is always that overtime, small improvements and deliberate decisions led to the desired results. If you improve 1% a day, eventually you will get there.
Perfectionism. Fear of failure, aiming for perfect, wastes a lot of opportunities. It kills progress.
Multi-tasking. Oh, I know you don’t want to hear this. But successful people choose one thing and “beat it into submission” and then move on to the next. Being fully committed to and engaged in one thing at a time is essential.
Need to control it all. It is a waste of energy to try to control things that can’t be controlled or are not up to you. Focus on what is yours to handle.
Things that don’t support your goals. Successful people know that to get where they want to go they have to say “no” to many other good things. Say good-bye to instant gratification.
Toxic people. The people we spend time with are the people we become. If you spend the bulk of your time with the people who are behind you, you will go down in impact. Make sure the people you spend time with are enriching your life.
The need to be liked. The only way to win a popularity contest is to do nothing important. Remain authentic, improve, provide value consistently, and know if your haters increase it is because your significance is attracting attention.
Obsession with social media and television. Impulsive web browsing and television watching are diseases of today’s society. Never use them as an escape or time-killer. your goals. Minimize your time there and direct it towards your goals.
Admittedly, those are challenging steps to take. They all involve a new way of thinking. But if you can’t change your mind, you won’t change anything else either. So get your mind in focus, let go of the right things, and now grab on to these directions:
Take 100% responsibility for your life. Only one person is responsible for the quality of life you live, and that is you. Your debt, health, relationships. Attitudes, behaviors all come right back to you. Take responsibility for the thoughts you think, the things you do, the experiences you have. Take responsibility to change what you don’t like. Your life is yours to own.
Be clear on your life purpose. Figure out what you are here to do, then get after it with enthusiasm and drive.
Decide what you really want out of life. Many people spend large seasons of life running in circles because they don’t know what they really want. They haven’t defined their desires, so they never dream big and work hard to get them.
Believe it is possible. Life is built from the inside out. Your mind is a powerful tool. You have to believe that what you want is possible.
Retire the complaint department. As you commit to believing in yourself, also make a commitment to toning down the complaint department. Look at what you are complaining about: I’m fat. I’m tired.I can’t get out of debt. I won’t ever get a better job. I can’t stand the relationship I have with my father. I’ll never have a great relationship. Really examine your complaints. Most of them are things you can do something about if you shut up and do it. Accepting this level of responsibility is uniquely empowering. It means you can do, change, and be anything.
Unleash the power of positive goal-setting. Brain researchers know that the brain is a goal-seeking organism. Whatever goal you give to your subconscious mind, it will work day and night to achieve. You can engage your mind through setting great, intelligent goals for yourself. You will find yourself making progress steadily towards the life you want, checking off those goals one at a time.
Face your fears with courage. Tony Robbins, one of our cultural experts at getting the life you desire, says, "Courage does not mean that you're not afraid. It means that you're afraid and you do it anyway. Many people live a long time but they don't truly live the life they desire because they let their stress and frustration get in their way, especially achievers. Stress is often the word achievers use to mask fear. Achievers usually believe they have to succeed or everything will fall apart, and then that will ultimately make them a failure. If I follow the trail of your stress, it'll take me to your deepest fear. And the only way to have your life work is to face that fear and push through it."
You can become the person you were created to be. It’s your life. Own it. Get started.